Ask The Elders

ASK THE ELDERS 
Your opportunity to ask questions directly and engage in meaningful dialogue with those who have witnessed and helped create the evolution of our diverse communities.

Date: Wednesday September 9th, 7-9pm
Open to all experience levels 18+
Sanctuary Private Club Members: FREE (must register in advance)
Advance: $10
At the door: $15
Advance sale closes at 6pm day of the event.

TICKET LINK: https://sanctuarylax.com/events/96756/orders/new

Every community has its storytellers, visionaries, and trailblazers. Now you have the opportunity to hear directly from them.

Join us each month for ASK THE ELDERS, an open forum and panel discussion featuring respected elders from the BDSM, Leather, fetish, and kink communities. Through candid conversations and audience Q&A, our guests will share the lessons they've learned, the challenges they've faced, and the experiences that helped shape the communities we know today.

From the early days of Leather culture and organized BDSM education to modern relationship dynamics and community evolution, no topic is off limits. Bring your questions, your curiosity, and your desire to connect with the rich history and living legacy of our community.

Whether you're seeking guidance, inspiration, historical perspective, or simply a chance to listen to some remarkable voices, ASK THE ELDERS is a monthly conversation you won't want to miss. Come learn from the past. Connect in the present. Help build the future. The stories of our community are too important to be lost because every generation has something to teach and something to learn. 

This months topic: 

Finding Your Path in the Kink Community 
What do we wish someone had told us when we were new?

Every kink journey begins with curiosity, but knowing where to go, who to trust, what to explore, and how to find your place in the community can sometimes be overwhelming.

Join some of the community's longtime elders for an honest, open and sometimes provocative conversation about the things every newcomer should know before taking their first steps into the world of kink. We'll talk about exploration, identity, consent, boundaries, safety, relationships, community, mentorship, finding your role, recognizing red flags, and learning from experience.

How do you know whether you're a Dominant, submissive, Switch, or something else entirely? Do you even need a label? How do you find trustworthy people to learn from? What should you know before attending your first munch, dungeon or play party? How do you recognize a healthy dynamic—and the warning signs of an unhealthy one? Most importantly, we'll talk about something that every newcomer needs to hear:

Your identity can evolve. Your interests can change. Your boundaries can change. And discovering who you are is part of the journey.

Come with your questions. Leave with knowledge, perspective and perhaps a little more confidence about finding your own path.

This month's panelists: 
Mistress Cyan
Sir Nik Satanas
slavegirl julia 
Dr Paradox

About the  panelists

MISTRESS CYAN 
Mistress Cyan has been active in the BDSM and Leather Lifestyle for over 35 years and has been a Professional Dominatrix for 30+ years. Considered a leader in both the lifestyle and professional communities. Mistress Cyan has received a plethora of awards including 4 Woman of The Year awards, 3 Lifetime Achievement awards, 3 times Mentor of The Year and has received commendations for leadership and support from The City of West Hollywood and The City of Los Angeles. The Central Canada Leather Association named her Icon of The Year in 2015. She has also been inducted into the BDSM Hall of Fame and The Dominatrix Hall of Fame.As an educator, Mistress Cyan was named Educator of the Year in The FemDom Awards andhas been a guest speaker and class instructor at a number of colleges and institutions of higher education such as UCLA, Stanford University, Cal State Long Beach, Cal State Northridge, Occidental University and more. She has also presented classes and conducted workshops throughout the US and Canada for oger 20 years. Mistress Cyan is the founder and executive producer of DomCon LA, DomCon Atlanta, and DomCon New Orleans, now in its 23rd  year.

SIR NIK SATANAS
Sir Nik has over 34 years of experience in Adult entertainment/BDSM and alternative sexual lifestyles. He is a teacher, performance artist, trainer, film producer, director, technical consultant and mentor. He has also worked around Los Angeles with several fetish toy makers, dungeons, film companies and independent Dominas. He was the President of Cirque DeSade, as well as a former Member of Knights of the Lair a local lifestyle organization dedicated to further knowledge, safety & mentorship of Dominants in M/s D/s BDSM dynamics. He is knowledgeable in SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) and RACK(Risk Aware Consensual Kink). In 2016, He was officially Covered with His Masters Cap by Mistress Cyan for the acknowledgment of over 30 years of service to his community. 
 

SLAVEGIRL JULIA 
julia has been an active and respected member of the BDSM and fetish community for almost two decades, She has a deep and intimate understanding of submissive, Dominant, and fetish dynamics which she has captured in her photos for the past 15 years. Her work has featured some of the world's top Dominatrixes and she served as the Official Photographer for DomCon Los Angeles and DomCon New Orleans for 11 years.

For the past 5 years as one of the sub-coaches of Mistress Damiana Chi’s Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy, julia has used her years of experience as a submissive to help teach women how to find their inner Dominatrix and how to practice the art of Domination in a skillful, loving, and ethical way.