Ask The Elders

ASK THE ELDERS 
Your opportunity to ask questions directly and engage in meaningful dialogue with those who have witnessed and helped create the evolution of our diverse communities.

Date: Sunday October 25th, 1-3pm
Open to all experience levels 18+
Sanctuary Private Club Members: FREE (must register in advance)
Advance: $10
At the door: $15
Advance sale closes at 12pm day of the event.

TICKET LINK: https://sanctuarylax.com/events/98568/orders/new

Every community has its storytellers, visionaries, and trailblazers. Now you have the opportunity to hear directly from them.

Join us each month for ASK THE ELDERS, an open forum and panel discussion featuring respected elders from the BDSM, Leather, fetish, and kink communities. Through candid conversations and audience Q&A, our guests will share the lessons they've learned, the challenges they've faced, and the experiences that helped shape the communities we know today.

From the early days of Leather culture and organized BDSM education to modern relationship dynamics and community evolution, no topic is off limits. Bring your questions, your curiosity, and your desire to connect with the rich history and living legacy of our community.

Whether you're seeking guidance, inspiration, historical perspective, or simply a chance to listen to some remarkable voices, ASK THE ELDERS is a monthly conversation you won't want to miss. Come learn from the past. Connect in the present. Help build the future. The stories of our community are too important to be lost because every generation has something to teach and something to learn. 

This month's topic: 

BEYOND THE COLLAR: RITUAL, COMMITMENT & THE D/s Dynamic

For generations, the collar has represented far more than an accessory. For many within BDSM and Leather communities, it can symbolize trust, devotion, authority, service, partnership, identity, or a deeply meaningful commitment between people.

But what does a collar actually mean and has that meaning changed?

Join our panel of community elders for a thoughtful conversation about  collaring and commitment within BDSM and Leather culture. We'll explore the rituals, traditions, meaning, symbolism, and expectations surrounding collars, commitment and relationships.

Come with your questions. Leave with knowledge, perspective and perhaps a little more confidence about finding your own path.

This month's guest moderator: 
Mistress Leanne of San Diego FemDom Alliance

This month's panelists: 
Mistress Cyan
Sir Nik Satanas
slavegirl julia 
 

About the  panelists

MISTRESS CYAN 
Mistress Cyan has been active in the BDSM and Leather Lifestyle for over 35 years and has been a Professional Dominatrix for 30+ years. Considered a leader in both the lifestyle and professional communities. Mistress Cyan has received a plethora of awards including 4 Woman of The Year awards, 3 Lifetime Achievement awards, 3 times Mentor of The Year and has received commendations for leadership and support from The City of West Hollywood and The City of Los Angeles. The Central Canada Leather Association named her Icon of The Year in 2015. She has also been inducted into the BDSM Hall of Fame and The Dominatrix Hall of Fame.As an educator, Mistress Cyan was named Educator of the Year in The FemDom Awards andhas been a guest speaker and class instructor at a number of colleges and institutions of higher education such as UCLA, Stanford University, Cal State Long Beach, Cal State Northridge, Occidental University and more. She has also presented classes and conducted workshops throughout the US and Canada for oger 20 years. Mistress Cyan is the founder and executive producer of DomCon LA, DomCon Atlanta, and DomCon New Orleans, now in its 23rd  year.

SIR NIK SATANAS
Sir Nik has over 34 years of experience in Adult entertainment/BDSM and alternative sexual lifestyles. He is a teacher, performance artist, trainer, film producer, director, technical consultant and mentor. He has also worked around Los Angeles with several fetish toy makers, dungeons, film companies and independent Dominas. He was the President of Cirque DeSade, as well as a former Member of Knights of the Lair a local lifestyle organization dedicated to further knowledge, safety & mentorship of Dominants in M/s D/s BDSM dynamics. He is knowledgeable in SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) and RACK(Risk Aware Consensual Kink). In 2016, He was officially Covered with His Masters Cap by Mistress Cyan for the acknowledgment of over 30 years of service to his community. 
 

SIR TAZ
Sir Taz is the founder of House of Taz (H.O.T.), a BDSM house and community organization in Southern California, which he leads alongside his life partner. Active in the scene since 2018, he has built his reputation on teaching, hosting, and showing up for his community. He serves on the Leadership Board of High Protocol Revival (HPR) as Marketing and Offsite Event Chair, and he is also Co-Chair of its Education Committee. He founded the DEPROGRAMMING discussion group, which began in person in 2018 and moved online in 2024. A DomCon Los Angeles educator and DomCon Community Service award winner, he has presented hands-on impact classes for Lost N Found events and previously taught at Insight at Lair De Sade. He is a proud member of the Knights of the Lair, the fraternal brotherhood of male Dominants that grew out of Lair De Sade, and of Eclipse LA, a group of Black BDSM practitioners. Shaped by the mentors who taught him along the way, Sir Taz believes in passing that knowledge forward and in leading by example and positive influence.